My mother has been a constant inspiration in my life. She is kind, compassionate, realistic, assertive, composed and self-assured. She is, by all I believe in, the wiser person I know. The use of “common sense” has always been her go-to-solution to all and every problem or situation and it is my goal to pass the “common sense” approach to my kids.
She has gone through the loss of her son, which is a pain that as I have learned, never goes away. She has worked hard “38 consecutive years” as she says it, climbing up the professional ladder without holding back, always with loyalty, professionalism, honesty, and integrity. She has been, is and will be my idol. My go-to-person when self-doubt, fear, pessimism, and doubt snicks in my heart.
Through the years, I have seen her suffer, adapt, change, dream, conquering happiness and peace, learning over and over to enjoy life, be loving and caring (and patient) to my dad, and be 100% available to my needs and wants.
After going through my own self-improvement program and in my pursuit to understand my life purpose, I have come to realize that she is not perfect, however, that realization just made me love her more since although she has her own challenging shortcomings, she has managed to be stronger than anyone I know. She has taught me life lessons that today I am sharing with you:
- Balance it out. My mother would always tell me to balance it out. Put the positive on one side and the negative on the other and make decisions based on the outcome. From professional decisions, to love, to friendship, to education, it can all be put in the balance and decisions are made knowing the positives and negatives of each possibility.
- Put yourself in the other person’s shoes: Before judging try your best to put yourself in their shoes. We don’t know what that person has gone through, we don’t know the whole story. Kindness and compassion should be your first impressions instead of baseless judgment.
- Be strong. My mother is a stoic person. She is the embodiment of what a strong mind and a generous heart and profound faith can do together. Even when I have gone through my good share of very low moments she has been compassionate but very clear… you are strong, you are mighty, you are a force, you are what you need to be to overcome anything.
- Got to be humble. We are no better than the person next to us. What we own and what we do for a living says nothing about who we are. Be humble and treat everyone with kindness and compassion. Always smile, always shake hands, always exchange kind words, treat everyone (including those that are clearly making the statement that they have more than you) with respect and kindness.
- Honesty goes a long way. She always believes she was sufficiently smart to get to where she was professionally when she retired, however, she was always very honest when she would say that along the way she met people far more qualified than her, but that it was her honesty and integrity that made her a solid candidate for every promotion she accomplished while working. If you don’t have integrity in the workplace, people will see through it. You can always be trained in the job, but integrity is what you bring with you.
At any time of my day, during a good moment or a low moment, I remember my mom and imagine how she would react, or what would she chose, or how she would handle the situation I am in, and by following her example, I have been able to move forward and in the positive direction. I am grateful to her. I am grateful for her heart and her soul. I am grateful for her love. I am grateful for her lessons.